Musings

Three types of people

“There are two types of people in the world: those who say ‘there are two types of people in the world’ and those who don’t.” – Gloria Steinem

There are three types of people in the world:

  • The Fakers: those who plaster a sticker and a smile over any pile of disaster in their lives and tell you everything’s “Fine. Great! Thanks for asking!”
  • The Downers: those who are “real” when it involves complaining about their lives and how there’s nothing they can do about it.
  • The Awesomes: those who are real and accurately portray that life is full of ups and downs.

The last few days I’ve been talking about sharing our imperfections, but I’ve been fuddled by one question: “What is the difference between being real and being real depressing?”

I’ve come across a few Downers in my life and immediately turn into a Faker. I smile and nod or lament and nod or agree and nod. Downers make me uncomfortable because there is nothing you can do to make them feel better.

Life is full of ups and downs. Anyone’s life. Everyone’s life. Even people faced with genocide or extreme poverty can find love and compassion at times. And yet, some people will find something to complain about even in the most ideal conditions. This isn’t being real. Just like you can slap stickers on a steaming pile of disaster, you can also slap a steaming pile of disaster over any idyllic life.

This isn’t being real. Just like you can slap stickers on a steaming pile of disaster, you can also slap a steaming pile of disaster over any idyllic life.

Show your imperfections…then move on and make progress. Being real is about being happy in jubilant times and sad or angry or frustrated in horrific times. Showing your imperfections is about having confidence that your feelings are valid and worth sharing.

Because guess what? Your feelings are valid and worth sharing.

(I just realized that I’m writing a blog post complaining about people who complain. #Inception #InceptionIsFrom2010 #HOLYCOWItsBeenSevenYears?!?! #TimeFlies)